Money Matters

Hello fellow daters,

I found myself recently inspired to discuss the subject of money. Especially with these hard times we have been experiencing with the economy. How is money relevant to the world of dating today? Do men always pay? Or do women go Dutch? The truth is money matters greatly because you can determine how the date will go based on how money, both yours and your date’s, is spent.

 For example: As a female, if you are not liking your date and find that it is not going the way you had hoped, simply pull out your money without giving him the chance to pay for you. If he insists on paying you should still refuse in order to not build up an unfair expectation for a second date. This says simply, “I am covering myself on the bill. Maybe we can be friends.” It shuts out the idea of a second date happening and does not raise his hopes.

If you are a guy who does not like the direction the date has turned, the best way to assure there won’t be another is to ask your date to split the bill with you. You appear cheap and that brings the date to a quick  close. If you are a guy and are truly interested in the girl and you asked her out, then you should be a gentleman and follow through with picking up the tab. Chivalry does not have to be dead. No one says she must be taken to someplace extravagant, just someplace where you are taking her out for a good time. If you are financially tapped, get creative and put more effort into it. Surprise her with a homemade lunch during her lunch hour. Rather than looking solely at what it is you are doing, most good women actually look at the effort that it made and find the sentiment more moving than the actual meal.

A word of caution to the Ladies: Just because a gentleman will pay, does not mean all men are gentleman. So women should be prepared to pay even if in the end they do not. In conclusion, do not agree to go somewhere you know your paychecks cannot afford. If you do not know your date well, be prepared to try "the reach." 

The Reach: Is when a person reaches for the bill in order to contribute to the total. This is always appreciated and a good way to test out whether a guy is just a guy or a gentleman. Just be prepared ladies, some guys will take you up on "the reach" and you will be picking up your own tab. So be ready!

Always best to be prepared!

In conclusion, Gentlemen, when a guy pays it says a lot about himself as a person. It tells us he is a go-getter who is also confident. Ladies, be a Miss Independent and make sure you can take care of yourself and not rely on a date to pick up your tab, but when you do find one you like and want to  get to know better, let yourself be treated like the lady you are and let him treat you.

Jane Doe of LA, over and out.

The Naked Truth

I decided for my first real blog it should be one direct and to the point. As a special operative on this mission, I feel it is important not to beat around the bush. While on this topic of “beating,” I would like to inform guys that it is also classless and unattractive when a guy decides to send pictures of his member in the hopes of wooing a woman. I have now had two experiences like this, with two different men. One, we will call him Nick*, sent me a picture of his member before we even made it out on the date, as if the size were suppose to impress me and somehow get me hot and bothered... instead, I was repulsed. 

Men need to understand women are not visual the same way men are. Where most guys actually get turned on while looking at a naked woman or her body parts, women are more into sensuality and thus it is our imagination and a man’s touch that gets us hot and bothered… not, I repeat, NOT a photo of your member, regardless of it’s size, unless you want to just be used for your member and never be considered as anything more than a lay. But boys that’s up to you!

I also have women often ask me about when it is considered appropriate to send a man they are dating naked pictures of themselves. I for one, find this to be only all right if, and only if, the guy and you are serious. Otherwise, you are only sending the message that you want to be a piece of ass and nothing more (This applies whether you are a guy or a girl). And yet the problem with sending pictures of yourself naked is they have the potential of falling into the wrong hands. The question you have to be willing to ask yourself is would you be comfortable with finding your pictures up on a website or being looked at by others? Ladies: if not, skip the “detailed” version and send him a picture of your head and shoulders with a little bit of cleavage. 

By doing this, you are not sending technical pornography and you can simply attach the picture with the words: “You get to see the rest when you come home.” It saves you from any real damage and also leaves a little something to the imagination, which piques a man’s interest. After all, a man that never knows what his girlfriend is going to do next has to keep on his toes and that keeps the relationship fresh and exciting.

In conclusion, picture texting and emailing parts of your body have a slew more cons than pros. So unless you truly know your recipient will appreciate said pictures and can completely be trusted with them, don’t do it.

Jane Doe of LA, over and out.

Introductions

I am a girl on a mission.

My identity is irrelevant to what it is I have set out to say, and what it is I hope to accomplish. I grew up in the superficial world of Hollywoodland. And now, I have set out to find love--real love. In this town, a town that wants nothing more than to escape the crow’s feet and the lard that gradually begins to creep around the midsection with age and is completely drowning in the synthetic. A world where some men are just as vain as women, sometimes even worse!

I only hope that it is not too late. That you, have not given up hope yet and that I can steer you on the right path. As females, to stay away from the grubby toads and pigs that seems to outnumber the decent men (yes this small clan actually exists). As for my male readers, I hope you take heed from some of these articles and stories I will provide you with so you will not be seen as a pig, nor a grubby toad... and perhaps you too will find one of the decent women that have not been diseased by the fake in this LA LA land we have come to call home.

Read on and you will be educated as well as entertained. And we can continue courageous and hopeful on this mission together.

-Jane Doe