Sex: When Is It Too Soon?

Sex is interesting when first introduced to a new relationship because it usually brings about more questions than answers. People often ask me when is too soon to have sex. The answer varies depending upon the person and the relationship. Sex is wonderful because it gives you a chance to really get to know your partner on a more intimate level. A person is more exposed during sex and because of this it gives you a better understanding of your partner... are they adventurous? Do they enjoy kissing as much during sex? Do they look you in the eye or hide their face so you cannot see them? Such habits can help you really know whether a person is shy, self-conscious, or trusting and open.

There are many clues you can read by body language. When a person looks into your eyes it means they are concentrating solely on you. When a person enjoys kissing a lot during sex it shows the person is affectionate and that they crave all of you. The best kind of lovers love kissing, because your lips can mimic your hips and this creates a heightened sense of pleasure to more than one area of the body. Another great sign for intimacy is "hand holding," which shows that the person wants to be connected to you even if in an innocent way. WARNING: If a person avoids your eye contact and avoids kissing you, be cautious... this person is either insecure or may be afraid of deeper intimacy.  Keep your guard up.

As far as when it is appropriate to bring sex into a new relationship depends strictly on how you feel about sex. It is usually best to get to know a person a bit before having sex because it shows you have an interest in them and not what is between their legs. Besides that, everything is fun and exciting in the beginning and once sex is introduced it keeps things fun and fresh. There isn't a set date or time you should have sex. Listen to your gut instincts and do it when it feels right.

Be a giving lover and show that you want to please your partner, by doing so it shows that it is more than just sex, it is intimacy you want to share with them. This shows that pleasing them pleases you. What is most important is that you understand sex is meant to give you the chance to know your partner better. It is intimate and so you should let the person really get to know you, your body, your likes and dislikes. Be open and honest and you will have a healthy sexual relationship, which is essential for any happy relationship.

Make sure you keep it fresh and be willing to try new things. Switch up positions during sex because the constant motion in a single position will grow tiresome for both of you.

Guys, also do you best to learn how to hold out from orgasming too quickly. After talking to a few of my fellow Ladies Does we got to talking about this and discovered that quite a few guys have had this problem. Usually switching positions and slowing down the speed can help. Communicate with your partner about "needs" in order to make sure both yours AND theirs are fulfilled as well.

Most importantly, have fun!

-Jane Doe over and out.